This is how I do it:

Code bellow for one button STATE:
<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?>
<layer-list xmlns:android="http://schemas.android.com/apk/res/android" >
    <!-- "background shadow" -->
    <item>
        <shape android:shape="rectangle" >
            <solid android:color="#000000" />
            <corners android:radius="15dp" />
        </shape>
    </item>
    <!-- background color -->
    <item
        android:bottom="3px"
        android:left="3px"
        android:right="3px"
        android:top="3px">
        <shape android:shape="rectangle" >
            <solid android:color="#cc2b2b" />
            <corners android:radius="8dp" />
        </shape>
    </item>
    <!-- over left shadow -->
    <item>
        <shape android:shape="rectangle" >
            <gradient
                android:angle="180"
                android:centerColor="#00FF0000"
                android:centerX="0.9"
                android:endColor="#99000000"
                android:startColor="#00FF0000" />
            <corners android:radius="8dp" />
        </shape>
    </item>
    <!-- over right shadow -->
    <item>
        <shape android:shape="rectangle" >
            <gradient
                android:angle="360"
                android:centerColor="#00FF0000"
                android:centerX="0.9"
                android:endColor="#99000000"
                android:startColor="#00FF0000" />
            <corners android:radius="8dp" />
        </shape>
    </item>
    <!-- over top shadow -->
    <item>
        <shape android:shape="rectangle" >
            <gradient
                android:angle="-90"
                android:centerColor="#00FF0000"
                android:centerY="0.9"
                android:endColor="#00FF0000"
                android:startColor="#99000000"
                android:type="linear" />
            <corners android:radius="8dp" />
        </shape>
    </item>
    <!-- over bottom shadow -->
    <item>
        <shape android:shape="rectangle" >
            <gradient
                android:angle="90"
                android:centerColor="#00FF0000"
                android:centerY="0.9"
                android:endColor="#00FF0000"
                android:startColor="#99000000"
                android:type="linear" />
            <corners android:radius="8dp" />
        </shape>
    </item>
</layer-list>
Then you should have a selector with diferent versions of the button, something like:
<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?>
<selector xmlns:android="http://schemas.android.com/apk/res/android">
    <item android:drawable="@drawable/ic_button_red_pressed" android:state_pressed="true"/> <!-- pressed -->
    <item android:drawable="@drawable/ic_button_red_selected" android:state_focused="true"/> <!-- focused -->
    <item android:drawable="@drawable/ic_button_red_selected" android:state_selected="true"/> <!-- selected -->
    <item android:drawable="@drawable/ic_button_red_default"/> <!-- default -->
</selector>
hope this can help you..good luck