You have to create a ref for each element and then set the style on click. Here is a working demo on snack : Dynamic ref with functional component
I worked with a functional compoennt, but if you are using a class, here a link to show you how to implements it : Dynamic ref with Class component
And in case Snack doesn't works, here is the code :
import * as React from 'react';
import { Text, View, StyleSheet, TouchableOpacity } from 'react-native';
export default function App() {
  const myRefs = React.useRef([]);
  const items = [
    {
      id:0,
      name:"Item1"
    },
    {
      id:1,
      name:"Item2"
    },
    {
      id:2,
      name:"Item3"
    }
  ];
  const buildView = () => {
      return items.map(item =>{
        return(
          <TouchableOpacity onPress={() => highlight(item.id)}>
            <View ref={el => myRefs.current[item.id] = el}>
              <Text>{item.name}</Text>
            </View>
          </TouchableOpacity>
        )
      });
  }
  const highlight = (itemId) => {
    myRefs.current[itemId].setNativeProps({style: {backgroundColor:'#FF0000'}});
  }
    const resetColors = () => {
        myRefs.current.forEach(ref => 
            ref.setNativeProps({style:{backgroundColor:'transparent'}})
        );
  }
  return (
    <View>
      {buildView()}
      <Button title="Next question" onPress={resetColors} />
    </View>
  );
}
I create a ref fow each view and onPress, I just change its style. Do whatever you want in the highlight method.