kinkshame

• kink-shame, kink shame

From kink +‎ shame.

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kinkshame (third-person singular simple present kinkshames, present participle kinkshaming, simple past and past participle kinkshamed)

1. (ambitransitive) To mock, shame, or condemn (someone) for their sexual preferences or interests and fetishes.
   • 2018 May 7, Rebecca Goldstein, “DDLG Ruins the Party Again”, in Binghamton Review, Binghamton Review, page 13:

     This abomination, which stands for "Daddy Dom Little Girl" is essentially pedophilia-lite and is super uncomfortable, abusive, and wildly problematic. Yes, I'm kinkshaming.

   • 2019, Ellie Cahill, Save the Secret Date, unnumbered page:

     "It's not a romantic relationship," he said. "But they are both really really into My Little Pony. In very dark ways."
     I burst into laughter again, letting out a snort. "Oh my god, I think I'm gonna be sick."
     "Don't kink-shame, Mary."

   • 2019, Annabel Gat, The Astrology of Love & Sex: A Modern Compatibility Guide, page 273:

     Let them know what your limits are early on if you're worried you might unknowingly kink-shame them, so they'll know, for example, not to let you in on their furry fantasy.

   • For more quotations using this term, see Citations:kinkshame.
2. (transitive) To mock, shame, or condemn (a sexual preference or fetish).
   • 2025 May 11, Monica Padrick, “Don Tyxote” (11:26 from the start), in Krapopolis‎^[1], season 2, episode 21, spoken by Shlub (Matt Berry):

     “Of all this world's perversities, there is only one I cannot abide: the kink-shame. I'm off!” “You can't walk out! I'm walking out!”

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