What you want (without resorting to Boost) is what I call an "ordered hash", which is essentially a mashup of a hash and a linked list with string or integer keys (or both at the same time).  An ordered hash maintains the order of the elements during iteration with the absolute performance of a hash.
I've been putting together a relatively new C++ snippet library that fills in what I view as holes in the C++ language for C++ library developers.  Go here:
https://github.com/cubiclesoft/cross-platform-cpp
Grab:
templates/detachable_ordered_hash.cpp
templates/detachable_ordered_hash.h
templates/detachable_ordered_hash_util.h
If user-controlled data will be placed into the hash, you might also want:
security/security_csprng.cpp
security/security_csprng.h
Invoke it:
#include "templates/detachable_ordered_hash.h"
...
// The 47 is the nearest prime to a power of two
// that is close to your data size.
//
// If your brain hurts, just use the lookup table
// in 'detachable_ordered_hash.cpp'.
//
// If you don't care about some minimal memory thrashing,
// just use a value of 3.  It'll auto-resize itself.
int y;
CubicleSoft::OrderedHash<int> TempHash(47);
// If you need a secure hash (many hashes are vulnerable
// to DoS attacks), pass in two randomly selected 64-bit
// integer keys.  Construct with CSPRNG.
// CubicleSoft::OrderedHash<int> TempHash(47, Key1, Key2);
CubicleSoft::OrderedHashNode<int> *Node;
...
// Push() for string keys takes a pointer to the string,
// its length, and the value to store.  The new node is
// pushed onto the end of the linked list and wherever it
// goes in the hash.
y = 80;
TempHash.Push("key1", 5, y++);
TempHash.Push("key22", 6, y++);
TempHash.Push("key3", 5, y++);
// Adding an integer key into the same hash just for kicks.
TempHash.Push(12345, y++);
...
// Finding a node and modifying its value.
Node = TempHash.Find("key1", 5);
Node->Value = y++;
...
Node = TempHash.FirstList();
while (Node != NULL)
{
  if (Node->GetStrKey())  printf("%s => %d\n", Node->GetStrKey(), Node->Value);
  else  printf("%d => %d\n", (int)Node->GetIntKey(), Node->Value);
  Node = Node->NextList();
}
I ran into this SO thread during my research phase to see if anything like OrderedHash already existed without requiring me to drop in a massive library.  I was disappointed.  So I wrote my own.  And now I've shared it.