I have the following mapping in nhibernate.
When I call Session.Merge(myparent) I get the an error on the insert indicating that NULL cannot be inserted into the foreign key (ParentItemId) column.
How can I adjust the mapping so that the parent key is inserted on insert. If I make the foreign key nullable this mapping works, but two separate statements are issued to the database.
This relationship is a one to many without a reference back to the parent on the child class.
HasMany(map => map.Children).Table("ChilrenTable")
   .KeyColumn("ParentItemId") // this is not nullable.
   .Cascade
   .AllDeleteOrphan();
example update
// entity here is the parent instance, which contains the list
// of children.
using (var tx = Session.BeginTransaction())
{
    entity = Session.Merge(entity); // this line causes the problem.
    Session.SaveOrUpdate(entity);
    Session.Flush();
    tx.Commit();
    return entity;
}