I want to do something like this :
myYear = record.GetValueOrNull<int?>("myYear"),
Notice the nullable type as the generic parameter.
Since the GetValueOrNull function could return null my first attempt was this: 
public static T GetValueOrNull<T>(this DbDataRecord reader, string columnName)
  where T : class
{
    object columnValue = reader[columnName];
    if (!(columnValue is DBNull))
    {
        return (T)columnValue;
    }
    return null;
}
But the error I'm getting now is:
The type 'int?' must be a reference type in order to use it as parameter 'T' in the generic type or method
Right! Nullable<int> is a struct! So I tried changing the class constraint to a struct constraint (and as a side effect can't return null any more):
public static T GetValueOrNull<T>(this DbDataRecord reader, string columnName)
  where T : struct
Now the assignment:
myYear = record.GetValueOrNull<int?>("myYear");
Gives the following error:
The type 'int?' must be a non-nullable value type in order to use it as parameter 'T' in the generic type or method
Is specifying a nullable type as a generic parameter at all possible?