"The Matisse code from Netbeans is blocked"
You can edit it as seen here
"because i have no access to the JLabel due to its private and blocked code"
Just write a getter method for the label in the other class
public class OtherClass .. {
    private JLabel jLabel1;
    public JLabel getLabel() {
        return jLabel1;
    }
}
import otherpackage.OtherClass;
public class MainFrame extends JFrame {
    private OtherClass otherClass;
    ...
    private void jButtonActionPerformed(ActionEvent e) {
         JLabel label = otherClass.getLabel();
         label.setBackground(...)
    }
}
"Access jframe component from another class"
Sounds like you're using multiple frames. See The Use of Multiple JFrames, Good/Bad Practice?
UPDATE
" I have a MAIN frame made in matisse but due to some reasons i have to set the background of an textField inside matisse from another class when X validation happens in the other class"
What you can do then is pass a reference of the Main frame to the other class, and have a setter in the Main frame. Something like (I will provide an interface for access)
public interface Gettable {
    public void setLabelBackground(Color color);
}
public class Main extends JFrame implements Gettable {
    private JLabel jLabel1;
    private OtherPanel otherPanel;
    public void initComponents() {
        otherPanel = new OtherPanel(Main.this); // see link above to edit this area
    }
    @Override
    public void setLabelBackground(Color color) {
        jLabel1.setBackground(color);
    }
}
public class OtherPanel extends JPanel {
    private Gettable gettable;
    public OtherPanel(Gettable gettable) {
        this.gettable = gettable;
    }
    private void jButtonActionPerformed(ActionEvent e) {
        gettable.setLabelBackground(Color.RED);
    }
}