OK here is a tough one that has been driving me nuts for a couple of days now...
I have two stages:
A users administration stage (Controller: UsersAdminController.java)
 with the following element hierarchy:
with the following element hierarchy:
 and a User addition stage: (Controller: AddUserController.java)
and a User addition stage: (Controller: AddUserController.java)

As a child to the scroll pane of the upper anchor pane of the users admin stage (see elements hierarchy) I add during initialization of the UsersAdminController a GridPane intended to list the users of the system as described here When I add a user through the user addition screen, I try to update the GridPane of the Users Administration stage by getting a reference to the UsersAdminController and then calling a method that updates its contents. However, the GridPane CANNOT BE UPDATED. (I seem unable to perform any gui-related action to the scroll pane neither the gridpane although I manage to get a reference to the relevant controller.
Code: Here is how the gridpane is (correctly) initialized through the initialize method of the UsersAdminController:
public void initialize(URL location, ResourceBundle resources) {
    gridPaneNonSudoUsers = new GridPane();
    gridPaneNonSudoUsers.setId("gridPaneNonSudoUsers");
    // setting column widths for the grid pane
    gridPaneNonSudoUsers.getColumnConstraints().add(new ColumnConstraints(145));
    gridPaneNonSudoUsers.getColumnConstraints().add(new ColumnConstraints(85));
    gridPaneNonSudoUsers.getColumnConstraints().add(new ColumnConstraints(210));
    gridPaneNonSudoUsers.getColumnConstraints().add(new ColumnConstraints(150));
    srcPaneUsers.setContent(gridPaneNonSudoUsers);
    gridPaneNonSudoUsers.setAlignment(Pos.CENTER);
    displayNonSudoUsers(getSystemNonSudoUsers());
}
Here is the displayNonSudoUsers that populates the GridPane
public void displayNonSudoUsers(ArrayList nonSudoUsers) {
    // adding some space between lines
    gridPaneNonSudoUsers.setVgap(15);
    Label lblHeaderUsername = new Label("Username");
    lblHeaderUsername.setPadding(new Insets(0, 0, 0, 20));
    lblHeaderUsername.setId("lblHeaderUsername");
    Label lblHeaderIsProtected = new Label("Προστασία");
    lblHeaderIsProtected.setId("lblHeaderIsProtected");
    GridPane.setHalignment(lblHeaderUsername, HPos.LEFT);
    GridPane.setHalignment(lblHeaderIsProtected, HPos.CENTER);
    // adding header elements to GridPane
    GridPane.setColumnIndex(lblHeaderUsername, 0);
    GridPane.setRowIndex(lblHeaderUsername, 0);
    GridPane.setColumnIndex(lblHeaderIsProtected, 1);
    GridPane.setRowIndex(lblHeaderIsProtected, 0);
    gridPaneNonSudoUsers.getChildren().addAll(lblHeaderUsername,
            lblHeaderIsProtected);
    // adding users
    int i = 1; // starting from 2nd row given that 1st row belongs to
                // headers
    for (NonSudoUser nsuser : nonSudoUsers) {
        /**** Label ****/
        String username = nsuser.getUsername();
        Label lblUsername = new Label(username);
        lblUsername.setPadding(new Insets(5, 0, 5, 20));
        lblUsername.setId("lbl" + username);
        GridPane.setHalignment(lblUsername, HPos.LEFT);
        /**** Image ****/
        boolean isProtected = nsuser.isProtected();
        ImageView imgIsProtected = new ImageView(
                isProtected ? "/resources/media/notOK.png"
                        : "/resources/media/ok.png");
        imgIsProtected.setFitHeight(20);
        imgIsProtected.setFitWidth(20);
        imgIsProtected.setId("img" + username);
        GridPane.setHalignment(imgIsProtected, HPos.CENTER);
        /**** Button for protection ****/
        Button btnSetProtected = new Button("Ενεργοποίηση Προστασίας");
        btnSetProtected.setId("btnProt" + username);
        btnSetProtected.setDisable(!isProtected);
        GridPane.setHalignment(btnSetProtected, HPos.CENTER);
        /**** Button for deletion ****/
        Button btnDeleteUser = new Button("Διαγραφή Χρήστη");
        btnDeleteUser.setId("btnDel" + username);
        GridPane.setHalignment(btnDeleteUser, HPos.CENTER);
        // delete user in a seperate thread
        btnDeleteUser.setOnAction(new EventHandler<ActionEvent>() {
            @Override
            public void handle(ActionEvent event) {
                Action response = Dialogs
                        .create()
                        .owner(root)
                        .title("ΔΙΑΓΡΑΦΗ ΧΡΗΣΤΗ")
                        .masthead(
                                "ΠΡΟΣΟΧΗ! ΠΡΟΚΕΙΤΑΙ ΝΑ ΔΙΑΓΡΑΨΕΤΕ ΤΟ ΧΡΗΣΤΗ: "
                                        + username)
                        .message("ΕΙΣΑΣΤΕ ΣΙΓΟΥΡΟΙ?")
                        .actions(Dialog.ACTION_OK, Dialog.ACTION_CANCEL)
                        .showConfirm();
                if (response == Dialog.ACTION_CANCEL)
                    return;
                Task<Void> task = new Task<Void>() {
                    @Override
                    public Void call() throws Exception {
                        String username = ((Button) event.getSource())
                                .getId();
                        LinuxCommand lc = new LinuxCommand("userdel", "-r",
                                username);
                        lc.execute();
                        return null;
                    }
                };
                task.setOnFailed(new EventHandler<WorkerStateEvent>() {
                    public void handle(WorkerStateEvent t) {
                        System.out.println("FAILURE deleting  " + username);
                    }
                });
                task.setOnSucceeded(new EventHandler<WorkerStateEvent>() {
                    public void handle(WorkerStateEvent t) {
                        Platform.runLater(new Task<Void>() {
                            @Override
                            public Void call() throws Exception {
                                ArrayList<Node> toErase = new ArrayList<Node>();
                                for (Node nodeToErase : gridPaneNonSudoUsers
                                        .getChildren()) {
                                    if (nodeToErase.getId().endsWith(
                                            username))
                                        toErase.add(nodeToErase);
                                }
                                gridPaneNonSudoUsers.getChildren()
                                        .removeAll(toErase);
                                // rearrangeGridPane(); - TBD
                                return null;
                            }
                        });
                    }
                });
                executorUserDeletion.submit(task);
            }
        });
        // adding user-related gui items
        GridPane.setColumnIndex(lblUsername, 0);
        GridPane.setRowIndex(lblUsername, i);
        GridPane.setColumnIndex(imgIsProtected, 1);
        GridPane.setRowIndex(imgIsProtected, i);
        GridPane.setColumnIndex(btnSetProtected, 2);
        GridPane.setRowIndex(btnSetProtected, i);
        GridPane.setColumnIndex(btnDeleteUser, 3);
        GridPane.setRowIndex(btnDeleteUser, i);
        gridPaneNonSudoUsers.getChildren().addAll(lblUsername,
                imgIsProtected, btnSetProtected, btnDeleteUser);
        i++;
    }
}
And here is the method that is called on action of the ADD USER BUTTON of the User Addition Stage
    public void createUser() throws UserCreationException {
        String username, password1, password2;
        username = txtUsername.getText();
        password1 = txtPassword1.getText();
        password2 = txtPassword2.getText();
        LinuxCommand lc = new LinuxCommand(System.getProperty("user.dir")+"/adduser.sh", username, password2);
    Task<Void> task = new Task<Void>() {
        @Override
        public Void call() throws Exception {
            lc.execute();
            return null;
        }
    };
    task.setOnFailed(new EventHandler<WorkerStateEvent>() {
        public void handle(WorkerStateEvent t) {
            System.out.println("FAILURE creating  " + username);
            System.out.println("exit code: " + lc.getExitCode());
        }
    });
    task.setOnSucceeded(new EventHandler<WorkerStateEvent>() {
        @Override
        public void handle(WorkerStateEvent t) {
            if (lc.getExitCode() != 0)
                // show dialog
                return;
            System.out.println("Successfully created new user:  " + username + " With exit code: " + lc.getExitCode());
            Platform.runLater(new Task<Void>() {
                @Override
                public Void call() throws Exception {                       
                    uac.addUser();          
                    return null;
                }
            });
        }
    });
    executorUserCreation.submit(task);
where uac is a reference to the UserAdministrationController.java and the adduser the method that tries to update the GridPane by CALLING AGAIN the displayNonSudoUsers(). I have also experimented by trying to do various stuff on the scroll pane / gridpane of the Users Admin Stage (e.g. deleting a label etc) but NADA!
Thanks.
EDIT: And this is the way I get the reference to the user admin controller (which is probably right because e.g. I manage to sysout some of its elements's ids etc.) in the initialize method of the AddUserController.java
public void initialize(URL location, ResourceBundle resources) {
    // need to access UsersAdminController to update users list 
    // when adding user
    URL loc = getClass().getResource("/resources/fxml/UsersAdminPane.fxml"); // the UsersAdmin fxml 
    FXMLLoader fxmlLoader = new FXMLLoader();
    fxmlLoader.setLocation(loc);
    fxmlLoader.setBuilderFactory(new JavaFXBuilderFactory());
    try {
        Parent root = (Parent) fxmlLoader.load(loc.openStream());
    } catch (IOException e) {
        // TODO Auto-generated catch block
        e.printStackTrace();
    }
    uac = (UsersAdminController)fxmlLoader.getController();
}
 
     
    