I need to serialize a (possibly complex *) object so that I can calculate the object's MAC**. 
If your messages are strings you can simply do tag := MAC(key, string) and with very high probability if s1 != s2 then MAC(key, s1) != MAC(key, s2), moreover it is computationally hard to find s1,s2 such that MAC(k,s1) == MAC(k,s2).
Now my question is, what happens if instead of strings you need do MAC a very complex object that can contain arrays of objects and nested objects:
JSON
Initially I though that just using JSON serialization could do the trick but it turns out that JSON serializers do not care about order so for example: {b:2,a:1} can be serialized to both {"b":2,"a":1} or {"a":2,"b":1}.
URL Params
You can convert the object to a list of url query params after sorting the keys, so for example {c:1,b:2} can be serialized to b=2&c=1. The problem is that as the object gets more complex the serialization becomes difficult to understand. Example: {c:1, b:{d:2}}
1. First we serialize the nested object:{c:1, b:{d=2}}
2. Then url encode the = sign: {c:1, b:{d%3D2}}
3. Final serialization is: b=d%3D2&c=1
As you can see, the serialization quickly becomes unreadable and though I have not proved it yet I also have the feeling that it is not very secure (i.e. it is possible to find two messages that MAC to the same value)
Can anyone show me a good secure*** algorithm for serializing objects?
[*]: The object can have nested objects and nested arrays of objects. No circular references allowed. Example:
{a:'a', b:'b', c:{d:{e:{f:[1,2,3,4,5]}}, g:[{h:'h'},{i:'i'}]}}
[**]: This MAC will then be sent over the wire. I cannot know what languages/frameworks are supported by the servers so language specific solutions like Java Object Serialization are not possible.
[***]: Secure in this context means that given messages a,b:  serialize(a) = serialize(b) implies that a = b
EDIT: I just found out about the SignedObject through this link. Is there a language agnostic equivalent?