If you want to implement equals and hashCode, the place to do it is inside the class Parent. Within that class add the methods like
    @Override
    public int hashCode() {
        return Objects.hash(getAttrib1(), getAttrib2(), getAttrib3(),
            // …
                            getAttrib19(), getAttrib20());
    }
    @Override
    public boolean equals(Object obj) {
        if(this==obj) return true;
        if(!(obj instanceof Parent)) return false;
        Parent p=(Parent) obj;
        return Objects.equals(getAttrib1(), p.getAttrib1())
            && Objects.equals(getAttrib2(), p.getAttrib2())
            && Objects.equals(getAttrib3(), p.getAttrib3())
            // …
            && Objects.equals(getAttrib19(), p.getAttrib19())
            && Objects.equals(getAttrib20(), p.getAttrib20());
    }
If you did this, distinct() invoked on a Stream<Parent> will automatically do the right thing.
If you don’t want (or can’t) change the class Parent, there is no delegation mechanism for equality, but you may resort to ordering as that has a delegation mechanism:
Comparator<Parent> c=Comparator.comparing(Parent::getAttrib1)
        .thenComparing(Parent::getAttrib2)
        .thenComparing(Parent::getAttrib3)
        // …
        .thenComparing(Parent::getAttrib19)
        .thenComparing(Parent::getAttrib20);
This defines an order based on the properties. It requires that the types of the attributes itself are comparable. If you have such a definition, you can use it to implement the equivalent of a distinct(), based on that Comparator:
List<Parent> result = Stream.concat(list1.stream(), list2.stream())
        .filter(new TreeSet<>(c)::add)
        .collect(Collectors.toList());
There is also a thread-safe variant, in case you want to use it with parallel streams:
List<Parent> result = Stream.concat(list1.stream(), list2.stream())
        .filter(new ConcurrentSkipListSet<>(c)::add)
        .collect(Collectors.toList());