I faced same problem. I solved it with fake AJAX response. Here's some code to show how it works:
Variables:
var skipAjax = false, // flag to use fake AJAX
    skipAjaxDrawValue = 0; // draw sent to server needs to match draw returned by server
DataTable AJAX definition:
ajax: {
    url: ajaxURL,
    type: 'POST',
    data: function(data) { //this function allows interaction with data to be passed to server
        if (skipAjax) { //if fake AJAX flag is set
            skipAjaxDrawValue = data.draw; //get draw value to be sent to server
        }
        return data; //pass on data to be sent to server
    },
    beforeSend: function(jqXHR, settings) { //this function allows to interact with AJAX object just before data is sent to server
        if (skipAjax) { //if fake AJAX flag is set
            var lastResponse = dataTable.ajax.json(); //get last server response
            lastResponse.draw = skipAjaxDrawValue; //change draw value to match draw value of current request
            this.success(lastResponse); //call success function of current AJAX object (while passing fake data) which is used by DataTable on successful response from server
            skipAjax = false; //reset the flag
            return false; //cancel current AJAX request
        }
    }
}
How to use:
skipAjax = true; //set the fake AJAX flag
dataTable.draw('page'); //call draw function of a DataTable requesting to re-draw just the current page