I have created a very simple example to show my problem. Maybe I just think in a wrong way.
I want to select an Item of my TreeView - and I would like to see it in the View (Blue background).
To realize the TwoWayBinding I use this Behavior: Data binding to SelectedItem in a WPF Treeview
public class BindableSelectedItemBehavior : Behavior<TreeView>
{
    #region SelectedItem Property
    public object SelectedItem
    {
        get { return (object)GetValue(SelectedItemProperty); }
        set { SetValue(SelectedItemProperty, value); }
    }
    public static readonly DependencyProperty SelectedItemProperty =
        DependencyProperty.Register("SelectedItem", typeof(object), typeof(BindableSelectedItemBehavior), new UIPropertyMetadata(null, OnSelectedItemChanged));
    private static void OnSelectedItemChanged(DependencyObject sender, DependencyPropertyChangedEventArgs e)
    {
        var item = e.NewValue as TreeViewItem;
        if (item != null)
        {
            item.SetValue(TreeViewItem.IsSelectedProperty, true);
        }
    }
    #endregion
    protected override void OnAttached()
    {
        base.OnAttached();
        this.AssociatedObject.SelectedItemChanged += OnTreeViewSelectedItemChanged;
    }
    protected override void OnDetaching()
    {
        base.OnDetaching();
        if (this.AssociatedObject != null)
        {
            this.AssociatedObject.SelectedItemChanged -= OnTreeViewSelectedItemChanged;
        }
    }
    private void OnTreeViewSelectedItemChanged(object sender, RoutedPropertyChangedEventArgs<object> e)
    {
        this.SelectedItem = e.NewValue;
    }
}
But if I click on an Item it does not go into the 'if' of the OnSelectedItemChanged because e.newValue as TreeViewItem is null
My XAML is very simple:
<StackPanel>
    <TreeView xmlns:i="clr-namespace:System.Windows.Interactivity;assembly=System.Windows.Interactivity"
      ItemsSource="{Binding Items}">
        <i:Interaction.Behaviors>
            <local:BindableSelectedItemBehavior
                SelectedItem="{Binding Item}" />
        </i:Interaction.Behaviors>
        <TreeView.ItemTemplate>
            <HierarchicalDataTemplate>
                <TextBlock Text="{Binding Text}"/>
            </HierarchicalDataTemplate>
        </TreeView.ItemTemplate>
    </TreeView>
    <TextBox Text="{Binding Item.Text}"/>
</StackPanel>
Thank you guys!