Say I have 3 divs displayed horizontally with flexbox:  
 |     |-div1-| |-center-div-| |-wider-div-|     |
And I want the center div to be aligned to the middle of the parent.  How can I accomplish this? justify-content will center all 3 of the divs based the sum of all their widths, and applying align-self: center to the middle div does nothing because the align property manipulates positioning on the other axis.  
Is there a responsive CSS solution, or should I resort to jQuery?
ul {
    display: flex;
    justify-content: center;
    width: 100%;
    background-color: purple;
}
li {
    background-color: red;
    border: 5px solid blue;
    list-style: none;
}<ul>
    <li><a href = "#">short</a></li>
    <li><a href = "#">want center</a></li>
    <li><a href = "#">loooooooooooooooooong</a></li>
</ul>Illustration of this problem: https://jsfiddle.net/7w8mp8Lj/2/
 
     
     
     
    