If I have something like
<Parent>
  <Child1 />
  <Child2 />
  <Child3 />
</Parent>
And I want to access from Child2 where I have refs="child2refs", how can I do that?
If I have something like
<Parent>
  <Child1 />
  <Child2 />
  <Child3 />
</Parent>
And I want to access from Child2 where I have refs="child2refs", how can I do that?
 
    
     
    
    If it cannot be avoided the suggested pattern extracted from the React docs would be:
import React, { Component } from 'react';
const Child = ({ setRef }) => <input type="text" ref={setRef} />;
class Parent extends Component {
    constructor(props) {
        super(props);
        this.setRef = this.setRef.bind(this);
    }
    componentDidMount() {
        // Calling a function on the Child DOM element
        this.childRef.focus();
    }
    setRef(input) {
        this.childRef = input;
    }
    render() {
        return <Child setRef={this.setRef} />
    }
}
The Parent forwards a function as prop bound to Parent's this. When React calls the Child's ref prop setRef it will assign the Child's ref to the Parent's childRef property.
Ref forwarding is an opt-in feature that lets some components take a ref they receive, and pass it further down (in other words, “forward” it) to a child.
We create Components that forward their ref with React.forwardRef.
The returned Component ref prop must be of the same type as the return type of React.createRef. Whenever React mounts the DOM node then  property current of the ref created with React.createRef will point to the underlying DOM node.
import React from "react";
const LibraryButton = React.forwardRef((props, ref) => (
  <button ref={ref} {...props}>
    FancyButton
  </button>
));
class AutoFocus extends React.Component {
  constructor(props) {
    super(props);
    this.childRef = React.createRef();
    this.onClick = this.onClick.bind(this);
  }
  componentDidMount() {
    this.childRef.current.focus();
  }
  onClick() {
    console.log("fancy!");
  }
  render() {
    return <LibraryButton onClick={this.onClick} ref={this.childRef} />;
  }
}
Created Components are forwarding their ref to a child node.
function logProps(Component) {
  class LogProps extends React.Component {
    componentDidUpdate(prevProps) {
      console.log('old props:', prevProps);
      console.log('new props:', this.props);
    }
    render() {
      const {forwardedRef, ...rest} = this.props;
      // Assign the custom prop "forwardedRef" as a ref
      return <Component ref={forwardedRef} {...rest} />;
    }
  }
  // Note the second param "ref" provided by React.forwardRef.
  // We can pass it along to LogProps as a regular prop, e.g. "forwardedRef"
  // And it can then be attached to the Component.
  return React.forwardRef((props, ref) => {
    return <LogProps {...props} forwardedRef={ref} />;
  });
}
See Forwarding Refs in React docs.
/*
* Child component
*/
class Child extends React.Component {
  render() {
    return (
      <div id="child">
        <h1 ref={(node) => { this.heading = node; }}>
          Child
        </h1>
      </div>
    );
  }
}
/*
 * Parent component
 */
class Parent extends React.Component {
  componentDidMount() {
    // Access child component refs via parent component instance like this
    console.log(this.child.heading.getDOMNode());
  }
  render() {
    return (
      <div>
        <Child
          ref={(node) => { this.child = node; }}
        />
      </div>
    );
  }
}
 
    
    Here is an example that will focus on an input using refs (tested in React 16.8.6):
The Child component:
class Child extends React.Component {
  constructor(props) {
    super(props);
    this.myRef = React.createRef();
  }
  render() {
    return (<input type="text" ref={this.myRef} />);
  }
}
The Parent component with the Child component inside:
class Parent extends React.Component {
  constructor(props) {
    super(props);
    this.childRef = React.createRef();
  }
  componentDidMount() {
    this.childRef.current.myRef.current.focus();
  }
  render() {
    return <Child ref={this.childRef} />;
  }
}
ReactDOM.render(
    <Parent />,
    document.getElementById('container')
);
The Parent component with this.props.children:
class Parent extends React.Component {
    constructor(props) {
        super(props);
        this.childRef = React.createRef();
    }
    componentDidMount() {
        this.childRef.current.myRef.current.focus();
    }
    render() {
        const ChildComponentWithRef = React.forwardRef((props, ref) =>
            React.cloneElement(this.props.children, {
                ...props,
                ref
            })
        );
        return <ChildComponentWithRef ref={this.childRef} />
    }
}
ReactDOM.render(
    <Parent>
        <Child />
    </Parent>,
    document.getElementById('container')
);
 
    
    First access the children with: this.props.children, each child will then have its ref as a property on it.
 
    
    If everything you have is props.children:
const Parent = (p: {children: JSX.Element}) => {
    const childRef = useRef()
    return React.cloneElement(p.children, { ref: childRef })
}
<Parent>
  <SingleChild />
</Parent>
Note that it will fail if your child cannot have a ref, e.g. React.Fragment.
 
    
    I think this guide explains it pretty well https://github.com/yannickcr/eslint-plugin-react/issues/678
class Field extends Component {
  const { inputRef } = this.props;
  render() {
    return (
      <input type="text" ref={inputRef} />
    )
  }
}
class MyComponent extends Component {
  componentDidMount() {
    this.inputNode.focus();
  }
  render() {
    return (
      <div>
        Hello, <Field inputRef={node => this.inputNode = node} />
      </div>
    )
  }
}
 
    
    Here is how I solve the problem for dynamic components:
On the parent, dynamically create references to the child components, for example:
class Form extends Component {
    fieldRefs: [];
    // dynamically create the child references on mount/init
    componentWillMount = () => {
        this.fieldRefs = [];
        for(let f of this.props.children) {
            if (f && f.type.name == 'FormField') {
                f.ref = createRef();
                this.fieldRefs.push(f);
            }
        }
    }
    // used later to retrieve values of the dynamic children refs
    public getFields = () => {
        let data = {};
        for(let r of this.fieldRefs) {
            let f = r.ref.current;
            data[f.props.id] = f.field.current.value;
        }
        return data;
    }
}
The Child component (ie <FormField />) implements it's own 'field' ref, to be referred to from the parent:
class FormField extends Component {
    field = createRef();
    
    render() {
        return(
            <input ref={this.field} type={type} />
        );
    }
}
Then in your main page, the "parent's parent" component, you can get the field values from the reference with:
class Page extends Component {
    form = createRef();
    onSubmit = () => {
        let fields = this.form.current.getFields();
    }
    render() {
        return (
            <Form ref={this.form}>
                <FormField id="email" type="email" autoComplete="email" label="E-mail" />
                <FormField id="password" type="password" autoComplete="password" label="Password" />
                <div class="button" onClick={this.onSubmit}>Submit</div>
            </Form>
        );
    }
}
I implemented this because I wanted to encapsulate all generic form functionality from a main <Form /> component, and the only way to be able to have the main client/page component set and style its own inner components was to use child components (ie. <FormField /> items within the parent <Form />, which is inside some other <Page /> component).
So, while some might consider this a hack, it's just as hackey as React's attempts to block the actual 'ref' from any parent, which I think is a ridiculous design, however they want to rationalize it.
 
    
    If you want to get the ref of children when in the parent component
// children is an array
const updatedChildren = Children.map(children, (child) => {
  return { ...child.props, ref: child.ref };
}),
// children is not an array
const childrenRef = children.ref;
