Take the following two tables:
Table "public.contacts"
       Column       |            Type             |                       Modifiers                       | Storage  | Stats target | Description
--------------------+-----------------------------+-------------------------------------------------------+----------+--------------+-------------
 id                 | integer                     | not null default nextval('contacts_id_seq'::regclass) | plain    |              |
 created_at         | timestamp without time zone | not null                                              | plain    |              |
 updated_at         | timestamp without time zone | not null                                              | plain    |              |
 external_id        | integer                     |                                                       | plain    |              |
 email_address      | character varying           |                                                       | extended |              |
 first_name         | character varying           |                                                       | extended |              |
 last_name          | character varying           |                                                       | extended |              |
 company            | character varying           |                                                       | extended |              |
 industry           | character varying           |                                                       | extended |              |
 country            | character varying           |                                                       | extended |              |
 region             | character varying           |                                                       | extended |              |
 ext_instance_id    | integer                     |                                                       | plain    |              |
 title              | character varying           |                                                       | extended |              |
Indexes:
    "contacts_pkey" PRIMARY KEY, btree (id)
    "index_contacts_on_ext_instance_id_and_external_id" UNIQUE, btree (ext_instance_id, external_id)
and
Table "public.members"
        Column         |            Type             |                             Modifiers                              | Storage  | Stats target | Description
-----------------------+-----------------------------+--------------------------------------------------------------------+----------+--------------+-------------
 id                    | integer                     | not null default nextval('members_id_seq'::regclass)               | plain    |              |
 step_id               | integer                     |                                                                    | plain    |              |
 contact_id            | integer                     |                                                                    | plain    |              |
 rule_id               | integer                     |                                                                    | plain    |              |
 request_id            | integer                     |                                                                    | plain    |              |
 sync_id               | integer                     |                                                                    | plain    |              |
 status                | integer                     | not null default 0                                                 | plain    |              |
 matched_targeted_rule | boolean                     | default false                                                      | plain    |              |
 external_fields       | jsonb                       |                                                                    | extended |              |
 imported_at           | timestamp without time zone |                                                                    | plain    |              |
 campaign_id           | integer                     |                                                                    | plain    |              |
 ext_instance_id       | integer                     |                                                                    | plain    |              |
 created_at            | timestamp without time zone |                                                                    | plain    |              |
Indexes:
    "members_pkey" PRIMARY KEY, btree (id)
    "index_members_on_contact_id_and_step_id" UNIQUE, btree (contact_id, step_id)
    "index_members_on_campaign_id" btree (campaign_id)
    "index_members_on_step_id" btree (step_id)
    "index_members_on_sync_id" btree (sync_id)
    "index_members_on_request_id" btree (request_id)
    "index_members_on_status" btree (status)
Indices exist for both primary keys and members.contact_id.
I need to delete any contact which has no related members. There are roughly 3MM contact and 25MM member records.
I'm attempting the following two queries:
Query 1:
DELETE FROM "contacts"
WHERE  "contacts"."id" IN (SELECT "contacts"."id" 
                           FROM   "contacts" 
                                  LEFT OUTER JOIN members 
                                               ON 
                                  members.contact_id = contacts.id 
                           WHERE  members.id IS NULL);
DELETE 0
Time: 173033.801 ms
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
 Delete on contacts  (cost=2654306.79..2654307.86 rows=1 width=18) (actual time=188717.354..188717.354 rows=0 loops=1)
   ->  Nested Loop  (cost=2654306.79..2654307.86 rows=1 width=18) (actual time=188717.351..188717.351 rows=0 loops=1)
         ->  HashAggregate  (cost=2654306.36..2654306.37 rows=1 width=16) (actual time=188717.349..188717.349 rows=0 loops=1)
               Group Key: contacts_1.id
               ->  Hash Right Join  (cost=161177.46..2654306.36 rows=1 width=16) (actual time=188717.345..188717.345 rows=0 loops=1)
                     Hash Cond: (members.contact_id = contacts_1.id)
                     Filter: (members.id IS NULL)
                     Rows Removed by Filter: 26725870
                     ->  Seq Scan on members  (cost=0.00..1818698.96 rows=25322396 width=14) (actual time=0.043..160226.686 rows=26725870 loops=1)
                     ->  Hash  (cost=105460.65..105460.65 rows=3205265 width=10) (actual time=1962.612..1962.612 rows=3196180 loops=1)
                           Buckets: 262144  Batches: 4  Memory Usage: 34361kB
                           ->  Seq Scan on contacts contacts_1  (cost=0.00..105460.65 rows=3205265 width=10) (actual time=0.011..950.657 rows=3196180 loops=1)
         ->  Index Scan using contacts_pkey on contacts  (cost=0.43..1.48 rows=1 width=10) (never executed)
               Index Cond: (id = contacts_1.id)
 Planning time: 0.488 ms
 Execution time: 188718.862 ms
Query 2:
DELETE FROM contacts 
WHERE  NOT EXISTS (SELECT 1 
                   FROM   members c 
                   WHERE  c.contact_id = contacts.id); 
DELETE 0
Time: 170871.219 ms
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
 Delete on contacts  (cost=2258873.91..2954594.50 rows=1895601 width=12) (actual time=177523.034..177523.034 rows=0 loops=1)
   ->  Hash Anti Join  (cost=2258873.91..2954594.50 rows=1895601 width=12) (actual time=177523.029..177523.029 rows=0 loops=1)
         Hash Cond: (contacts.id = c.contact_id)
         ->  Seq Scan on contacts  (cost=0.00..105460.65 rows=3205265 width=10) (actual time=0.018..1068.357 rows=3196180 loops=1)
         ->  Hash  (cost=1818698.96..1818698.96 rows=25322396 width=10) (actual time=169587.802..169587.802 rows=26725870 loops=1)
               Buckets: 262144  Batches: 32  Memory Usage: 36228kB
               ->  Seq Scan on members c  (cost=0.00..1818698.96 rows=25322396 width=10) (actual time=0.052..160081.880 rows=26725870 loops=1)
 Planning time: 0.901 ms
 Execution time: 177524.526 ms
As you can see that without even deleting any records both queries show similar performance taking ~3 minutes.
The server disk I/O spikes to 100% so I'm assuming that data is being spilled out to the disk because a sequential scan is done on both contacts and members.
The server is an EC2 r3.large (15GB RAM).
Any ideas on what I can do to optimize this query?
Update #1:
After running vacuum analyze for both tables and ensuring enable_mergejoin is set to on there is no difference in the query time:
DELETE FROM contacts 
WHERE  NOT EXISTS (SELECT 1 
                   FROM   members c 
                   WHERE  c.contact_id = contacts.id); 
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
 Delete on contacts  (cost=2246088.17..2966677.08 rows=1875003 width=12) (actual time=209406.342..209406.342 rows=0 loops=1)
   ->  Hash Anti Join  (cost=2246088.17..2966677.08 rows=1875003 width=12) (actual time=209406.338..209406.338 rows=0 loops=1)
         Hash Cond: (contacts.id = c.contact_id)
         ->  Seq Scan on contacts  (cost=0.00..105683.28 rows=3227528 width=10) (actual time=0.008..1010.643 rows=3227462 loops=1)
         ->  Hash  (cost=1814029.74..1814029.74 rows=24855474 width=10) (actual time=198054.302..198054.302 rows=27307060 loops=1)
               Buckets: 262144  Batches: 32  Memory Usage: 37006kB
               ->  Seq Scan on members c  (cost=0.00..1814029.74 rows=24855474 width=10) (actual time=1.132..188654.555 rows=27307060 loops=1)
 Planning time: 0.328 ms
 Execution time: 209408.040 ms
Update 2:
PG Version:
PostgreSQL 9.4.4 on x86_64-pc-linux-gnu, compiled by x86_64-pc-linux-gnu-gcc (Gentoo Hardened 4.5.4 p1.0, pie-0.4.7) 4.5.4, 64-bit
Relation size:
         Table         |  Size   | External Size
-----------------------+---------+---------------
 members               | 23 GB   | 11 GB
 contacts              | 944 MB  | 371 MB
Settings:
 work_mem
----------
 64MB
 random_page_cost
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Update 3:
Experimenting with doing this in batches doesn't seem to help out on the I/O usage (still spikes to 100%) and doesn't seem to improve on time despite using index-based plans.
DO $do$ 
BEGIN 
  FOR i IN 57..668 
  LOOP 
    DELETE 
    FROM   contacts 
    WHERE  contacts.id IN 
           ( 
                           SELECT          contacts.id 
                           FROM            contacts 
                           left outer join members 
                           ON              members.contact_id = contacts.id 
                           WHERE           members.id IS NULL 
                           AND             contacts.id >= (i    * 10000) 
                           AND             contacts.id < ((i+1) * 10000));
END LOOP;END $do$;
I had to kill the query after Time: 1203492.326 ms and disk I/O stayed at 100% the entire time the query ran. I also experimented with 1,000 and 5,000 chunks but did not see any increase in performance.
Note: The 57..668 range was used because I know those are existing contact IDs. (E.g. min(id) and max(id))
 
     
     
     
     
     
    