In a normalized relational database, such a situation is unacceptable. You should have a junction table that stores one row for each distinct ID of the FOO object and the ID of the Fruit. Existence of such a row means the fruit is in that list for the FOO.
CREATE TABLE FOO ( 
  id int primary key not null,
  int1 int, 
  int2 int, 
  int3 int
)
CREATE TABLE Fruits (
  id int primary key not null,
  name varchar(30)
)
CREATE TABLE FOOFruits (
  FruitID int references Fruits (ID),
  FooID int references FOO(id),
  constraint pk_FooFruits primary key (FruitID, FooID)
)
To add Apple fruit to the list of a specific FOO object with ID=5, you would:
INSERT FOOFruits(FooID, FruitID)
SELECT 5, ID FROM Fruits WHERE name = 'Apple'