Your code (simplified):
struct X
{
   int mem;
   void f(int param = mem); //ERROR
};
You want to use a non-static member data as default value for a parameter of a member function. The first question which comes to mind is this : which specific instance of the class the default value mem belongs to?
X x1 = {100};  //mem = 100
X x2 = {200};  //mem = 200
x1.f(); //param is 100 or 200? or something else?
Your answer might be 100 as f() is invoked on the object x1  which has mem = 100. If so, then it requires the implementation to implement f() as:
void f(X* this, int param = this->mem);
which in turn requires the first argument to be initialized first before initialization of other argument. But the C++ standard doesn't specify any initialization order of the function arguments. Hence that isn't allowed. Its for the same reason that C++ Standard doesn't allow even this:
int f(int a, int b = a); //§8.3.6/9
In fact, §8.3.6/9 explicitly says,
Default arguments are evaluated each
  time the function is called. The order
  of evaluation of function arguments is
  unspecified. Consequently, parameters
  of a function shall not be used in
  default argument expressions, even if
  they are not evaluated.
And rest of the section is an interesting read.
An interesting topic related to "default" arguments (not related to this topic though):