Looking into nginx: ignore some requests without proper Host header got me thinking that it's not actually possible to close(2) a TCP connection without the OS properly terminating the underlying TCP connection by sending an RST (and/or FIN) to the other end.
One workaround would be to use something like It turns out, that OpenBSD's tcpdrop(8), however, as can be seen from usr.sbin/tcpdrop/tcpdrop.c on OpenBSD and FreeBSD, it's implemented through a sysctl-based interface, and may have portability issues outside of BSDs. (In fact, it looks like even the sysctl-based implementation may be different enough between OpenBSD and FreeBSD to require a porting layer -- OpenBSD uses the tcp_ident_mapping structure (which, subsequently, contains two sockaddr_storage elements, plus some other info), whereas FreeBSD, DragonFly and NetBSD use an array of two sockaddr_storage elements directly.)tcpdrop does appear to send the R packet as per tcpdump(8), and can be confirmed by looking at /sys/netinet/tcp_subr.c :: tcp_drop(), which calls tcp_close() in the end (and tcp_close() is confirmed to send RST elsewhere on SO), so, it appears that it wouldn't even work, either.
If I'm establishing the connection myself through C, is there a way to subsequently drop it without an acknowledgement to the other side, e.g., without initiating RST?