I feel dirty even asking this question. But here it is:
I am using jqxGrid from jqWidgets.  It adds tabindex="1" automatically to its grid.  No mater what.
And it puts it back if you so much as mouse over the thing.
Crazy stuff. I am hoping that there is a way to remove it, but I found a jqWidgets question asked about this 4 years ago and it got no responses.
I know it will probably kill performance (and frankly I will probably not use it). But my frustration has me asking anyway...
Is there an event I can catch, so I know when tabindex is added to a specific element (and then remove it)?  (or even better block it)