By looking at the source code we can simulate data.tables behaviour for different inputs
if (!missing(j)) {
    jsub = replace_dot_alias(substitute(j))
    root = if (is.call(jsub)) as.character(jsub[[1L]])[1L] else ""
    if (root == ":" ||
        (root %chin% c("-","!") && is.call(jsub[[2L]]) && jsub[[2L]][[1L]]=="(" && is.call(jsub[[2L]][[2L]]) && jsub[[2L]][[2L]][[1L]]==":") ||
        ( (!length(av<-all.vars(jsub)) || all(substring(av,1L,2L)=="..")) &&
          root %chin% c("","c","paste","paste0","-","!") &&
          missing(by) )) {   # test 763. TODO: likely that !missing(by) iff with==TRUE (so, with can be removed)
      # When no variable names (i.e. symbols) occur in j, scope doesn't matter because there are no symbols to find.
      # If variable names do occur, but they are all prefixed with .., then that means look up in calling scope.
      # Automatically set with=FALSE in this case so that DT[,1], DT[,2:3], DT[,"someCol"] and DT[,c("colB","colD")]
      # work as expected.  As before, a vector will never be returned, but a single column data.table
      # for type consistency with >1 cases. To return a single vector use DT[["someCol"]] or DT[[3]].
      # The root==":" is to allow DT[,colC:colH] even though that contains two variable names.
      # root == "-" or "!" is for tests 1504.11 and 1504.13 (a : with a ! or - modifier root)
      # We don't want to evaluate j at all in making this decision because i) evaluating could itself
      # increment some variable and not intended to be evaluated a 2nd time later on and ii) we don't
      # want decisions like this to depend on the data or vector lengths since that can introduce
      # inconistency reminiscent of drop=TRUE in [.data.frame that we seek to avoid.
      with=FALSE
Basically, "[.data.table" catches the expression passed to j and decides how to treat it based on some predefined rules. If one of the rules is satisfied, it sets with=FALSE which basically means that column names were passed to j, using standard evaluation.
The rules are (roughly) as follows:
- Set - with=FALSE,
 - 1.1. if - jexpression is a call and the call is- :or
 - 1.2. if the call is a combination  of - c("-","!")and- (and- :or
 - 1.3. if some value (character, integer, numeric, etc.) or - ..was passed to- jand the call is in- c("","c","paste","paste0","-","!")and there is no a- bycall
 
otherwise set with=TRUE
So we can convert this into a function and see if any of the conditions were satisfied (I've skipped the converting the . to list function as it is irrelevant here. We will just test with list directly)
is_satisfied <- function(...) {
  jsub <- substitute(...)
  root = if (is.call(jsub)) as.character(jsub[[1L]])[1L] else ""
  if (root == ":" ||
    (root %chin% c("-","!") && 
     is.call(jsub[[2L]]) && 
     jsub[[2L]][[1L]]=="(" && 
     is.call(jsub[[2L]][[2L]]) && 
     jsub[[2L]][[2L]][[1L]]==":") ||
    ( (!length(av<-all.vars(jsub)) || all(substring(av,1L,2L)=="..")) &&
      root %chin% c("","c","paste","paste0","-","!"))) TRUE else FALSE
}
is_satisfied("x")
# [1] TRUE
is_satisfied(c("x", "y"))
# [1] TRUE
is_satisfied(..x)
# [1] TRUE
is_satisfied(1:2)
# [1] TRUE
is_satisfied(c(1:2))
# [1] TRUE
is_satisfied((1:2))
# [1] FALSE
is_satisfied(y)
# [1] FALSE
is_satisfied(list(x, y))
# [1] FALSE