I wanted this today, myself, so sharing the tested results here.  I believe a call to getmem() will do what the OP asked, on any unix box.  Written in very generic C, it will work in C or C++.
// Calling function must free the returned result.
char* exec(const char* command) {
  FILE* fp;
  char* line = NULL;
  // Following initialization is equivalent to char* result = ""; and just
  // initializes result to an empty string, only it works with
  // -Werror=write-strings and is so much less clear.
  char* result = (char*) calloc(1, 1);
  size_t len = 0;
  fflush(NULL);
  fp = popen(command, "r");
  if (fp == NULL) {
    printf("Cannot execute command:\n%s\n", command);
    return NULL;
  }
  while(getline(&line, &len, fp) != -1) {
    // +1 below to allow room for null terminator.
    result = (char*) realloc(result, strlen(result) + strlen(line) + 1);
    // +1 below so we copy the final null terminator.
    strncpy(result + strlen(result), line, strlen(line) + 1);
    free(line);
    line = NULL;
  }
  fflush(fp);
  if (pclose(fp) != 0) {
    perror("Cannot close stream.\n");
  }
  return result;
}
int getmem() {
  pid_t pid = getpid();
  char cmd[64];
  snprintf(cmd, 64, "/bin/ps -p %d -o size", pid);
  char* result = exec(cmd);
  if (!result) {
    return 0;
  }
  // Find first newline.
  int pos = 0;
  while (result[pos] != '\n') {
    pos++;
  }
  // Remove the final newline.
  result[strlen(result) - 1] = '\0';
  // Convert to integer.
  int size = atoi(result + pos + 1);
  free(result);
  return size;
}
Technically, I suppose the printf(...) line should be fprintf(stderr, ...), but I tend to have stderr redirected for certain environment-specific logging reasons, and this is how I compiled and tested the code, so I'm copying verbatim to avoid breakage.