It's 4 years old question and now many things have been changed in flutter but I will answer this questino because I recently went through a requirement like this and I bet this solution will work for everybody so let's get started.
So as per my understanding you are having more than 1 text fields in your screen and you want change the color when you click to enter on different text fields.
So it can be done in lot a different ways I will share the most intuitive way which I liked.
Steps :-
1.make Color variables for every textFields which you are having in your screen.
2. Initialize default color in the InItState() {}. (for example I want my all fields with no color so I will Colors.transparent)
3. Make filled: True in your TextFormField.
4. set filledColor to variable which you created for the color for the particular textField.
5. change the value of variable for the onTap: event.
So Now your noodles are ready, just go through the code after reading these steps.
import '../flutter_flow/flutter_flow_theme.dart';
import '../flutter_flow/flutter_flow_util.dart';
import '../flutter_flow/flutter_flow_widgets.dart';
import 'package:flutter/material.dart';
import 'package:flutter/services.dart';
import 'package:google_fonts/google_fonts.dart';
import 'package:mask_text_input_formatter/mask_text_input_formatter.dart';
import 'package:provider/provider.dart';
import 'personal_info2by2_component_model.dart';
export 'personal_info2by2_component_model.dart';
class PersonalInfo2by2ComponentWidget extends StatefulWidget {
  const PersonalInfo2by2ComponentWidget({Key? key}) : super(key: key);
  @override
  _PersonalInfo2by2ComponentWidgetState createState() =>
      _PersonalInfo2by2ComponentWidgetState();
}
class _PersonalInfo2by2ComponentWidgetState
    extends State<PersonalInfo2by2ComponentWidget> {
  late PersonalInfo2by2ComponentModel _model;
  late AutovalidateMode firstNameAutoValidateMode;
  late AutovalidateMode lastNameAutoValidateMode;
  late AutovalidateMode emailAutoValidateMode;
  late AutovalidateMode phoneAutoValidateMode;
  late Color firstNameFocusColor;
  late Color lastNameFocusColor;
  late Color emailFocusColor;
  late Color phoneFocusColor;
  @override
  void setState(VoidCallback callback) {
    super.setState(callback);
    _model.onUpdate();
  }
  @override
  void initState() {
    super.initState();
    _model = createModel(context, () => PersonalInfo2by2ComponentModel());
    _model.firstNameTextFieldController ??= TextEditingController();
    _model.lastNameTextFieldController ??= TextEditingController();
    firstNameFocusColor = Colors.transparent;
    lastNameFocusColor = Colors.transparent;
     WidgetsBinding.instance.addPostFrameCallback((_) => setState(() {}));
  }
  @override
  void dispose() {
    _model.maybeDispose();
    super.dispose();
  }
  @override
  Widget build(BuildContext context) {
   return Container(
        width: double.infinity,
        height: double.infinity,
        decoration: BoxDecoration(),
        child: Form(
          key: _model.formKey,
          //autovalidateMode: AutovalidateMode.disabled,
          child: Column(
            mainAxisSize: MainAxisSize.max,
            children: [
              Padding(
                padding: EdgeInsetsDirectional.fromSTEB(0, 10, 0, 30),
                child: Text(
                  'Personal Details',
                  style: FlutterFlowTheme.of(context).bodyText1.override(
                        fontFamily: 'Poppins',
                        fontSize: 22,
                      ),
                ),
              ),
              TextFormField(
                controller: _model.firstNameTextFieldController,
                autovalidateMode: firstNameAutoValidateMode,
                autofocus: true,
                textCapitalization: TextCapitalization.words,
                obscureText: false,
                onTap: () {
                  setState(() {
                    firstNameFocusColor = Colors.yellow[50]!;
                    lastNameFocusColor = Colors.transparent;
                  });
                },
                decoration: InputDecoration(
                  fillColor: firstNameFocusColor,
                  filled: true,
                ),
              ),
              TextFormField(
                controller: _model.lastNameTextFieldController,
                autovalidateMode: lastNameAutoValidateMode,
                autofocus: true,
                textCapitalization: TextCapitalization.words,
                obscureText: false,
                onTap: () {
                  setState(() {
                    lastNameAutoValidateMode = AutovalidateMode.onUserInteraction;
                    firstNameFocusColor = Colors.transparent;
                    lastNameFocusColor = Colors.yellow[50]!;
                  });
                },
                decoration: InputDecoration(
                  filled: true,
                  fillColor: lastNameFocusColor,
                ),
              ),
            ],
          ),
        ),
      );
  }
}