I think, if you'll try to follow this simple example, it might, at least, help you to solve your real problem.
We have to start from dummy data set preparation (please read how to make a minimal reproducible example):
Make a treatment data set:
library(tidyverse)
set.seed(56154455)
treatment <- data.frame(
  geneName = LETTERS,
  cts      = sample(0:1000, 26)
)
head(treatment)
#   geneName cts
# 1        A 834
# 2        B 860
# 3        C 950
# 4        D 302
# 5        E 979
# 6        F 159
Make a control data set:
set.seed(56154455)
control   <- treatment[sample(1:26, 26), ]
control[, 1] <- treatment[, 1]
head(control)
#    geneName cts
# 3         A 950
# 23        B  41
# 15        C 889
# 20        D 629
# 14        E 398
# 4         F 302
Join both treatment and control by geneName
cts <- full_join(treatment, control, by = 'geneName') %>%
  rename('treatment' = cts.x, 'control' = cts.y) %>%
  column_to_rownames('geneName') %>%
  as.matrix
head(cts)
#   treatment control
# A       331     737
# B       914     676
# C       161     161
# D       592     769
# E       946      74
# F       813     314
Prepare your coldata table
Remember, this is just a dummy example, so your real coldata, might include any number of columns, which reflects the design of your experiment. However, the number of rows in your coldata, has to be equal to the number of columns in your experimental data (here it is cts). Please read the documentation for SummarizedExperiment class, where you can find detailed explanation. Another great resource is the Rafa's book
coldata <- matrix(c("DMSO", "1xPBS"), dimnames = list(colnames(cts), 'treatment'))
coldata
#        treatment
# treatment "DMSO"   
# control   "1xPBS" 
Finally, create your DESeqDataSet:
dds <- DESeq2::DESeqDataSetFromMatrix(
  countData = cts, 
  colData   = coldata, 
  design    = ~treatment
  )
Where:
- countDatais your experimental data, prepared as above;
- colDatais your- coldatamatrix, with experimental metadata;
- ~treatmentis the formula, describing the experimental model you test in your experiment. It could be anything like- ~ treatment + sex * ageetc.
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dds
# class: DESeqDataSet 
# dim: 26 2 
# metadata(1): version
# assays(1): counts
# rownames(26): A B ... Y Z
# rowData names(0):
# colnames(2): treatment control
# colData names(1): treatment