Tkinter comes with the module ttk which stands for themed tk. It provides a way to create widget themes. 
How to do it is under-documented, but tkdocs.com has a good discussion of the fundamentals. 
At the end of this question is code which can create frames that have rounded corners, a shadow, and a unique color to represent focus, to serve as an example of what you can do.  Answering all your questions is a bit beyond the scope of what stackoverflow is for, but hopefully, this is enough to show that what you want is possible.

import tkinter as tk
from tkinter import ttk
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'''
borderImageData = '''
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'''
root = tk.Tk()
style = ttk.Style()
borderImage = tk.PhotoImage("borderImage", data=borderImageData)
focusBorderImage = tk.PhotoImage("focusBorderImage", data=focusBorderImageData)
style.element_create("RoundedFrame",
                     "image", borderImage,
                     ("focus", focusBorderImage),
                     border=16, sticky="nsew")
style.layout("RoundedFrame",
             [("RoundedFrame", {"sticky": "nsew"})])
frame1 = ttk.Frame(style="RoundedFrame", padding=10)
text1 = tk.Text(frame1, borderwidth=0, highlightthickness=0, wrap="word",
                width=40, height=4)
text1.pack(fill="both", expand=True)
text1.bind("<FocusIn>", lambda event: frame1.state(["focus"]))
text1.bind("<FocusOut>", lambda event: frame1.state(["!focus"]))
text1.insert("end", "This widget has the focus")
frame2 = ttk.Frame(style="RoundedFrame", padding=10)
text2 = tk.Text(frame2, borderwidth=0, highlightthickness=0, wrap="word",
                width=40, height=4)
text2.pack(fill="both", expand=True)
text2.bind("<FocusIn>", lambda event: frame2.state(["focus"]))
text2.bind("<FocusOut>", lambda event: frame2.state(["!focus"]))
text2.insert("end", "This widget does not have the focus")
root.configure(background="white")
frame1.pack(side="top", fill="both", expand=True, padx=20, pady=20)
frame2.pack(side="top", fill="both", expand=True, padx=20, pady=20)
frame1.focus_set()
root.mainloop()
This code was originally posted as an answer to the question Tkinter: How to make a rounded corner text widget?. The original version of this code was written in Tcl in 2007, before stackoverflow existed.