After some troubleshooting , I found (what I think is) an efficient way of doing it:
skews <- psych::describe.By(df$DV, df$Country, mat = TRUE) #.BY and mat will produce a matrix that you can use to merge into your df easily
skews %<>%select(group1, mean, skew) %>% sjlabelled::as_factor(., group1) #Turn it into a factor, I also kept country means
combined <- sort(union(levels(df$Country), levels(skews$group1))) #I was getting an error that my levels were inconsistent even though they were the same (since group1 came from df$Country) which I think was due to having Country reference category Germany which through off the alphabetical sort of group1 so I used [dfrankow's answer][1]
df <- left_join(mutate(df, Country=factor(Country, levels=combined)),
mutate(skews, Country=factor(group1, levels=combined))) %>% rename(`Country skew` = "skew", `Country mean` = "mean") %>% select(-group1)
df$`Country skew` <- round(df$`Country skew`, 2)
ggplot(df) +
geom_bar(aes(x = DV, y=(..prop..)))+
xlab("Scale axis text") + ylab("Proportion") +
scale_x_continuous()+
scale_y_continuous(labels = scales::percent_format(accuracy = 1))+
ggtitle("DV distribution by country mean")+
facet_wrap(~ Country %>% fct_reorder(.,mean), nrow = 2) #this way the reorder that was important for my lm can remain intact