The values come from a database. I have to check every value of this column
Instead of trying to get all column values from the DataGrid, access the DataTable directly in your code. As you did not provide information on that, I assume that the column data type is string and the column ID is ParaXML. If it is different in your code, please adapt the following samples.
foreach(DataRow row in dt.Rows)
{
   var columnValue = (string)row["ParaXML"];
   // ...do something with the column value.
}
If you want to get all column values as a list instead, you can do it like above in a loop or using Linq.
var paraXmls = new List<string>();
foreach(DataRow row in dt.Rows)
   paraXMLs.Add((string)row["ParaXML"]);
var paraXmls = dt.AsEnumerable().Select(row => row.Field<string>("ParaXML")).ToList();