I have a complex array filled the objects .(Shown below)
 const privateMessages = Array [
  Object {
    "_id": "607533d511a2301b204720ed",
    "chat": Array [
      Object {
        "_id": "6098ffd30a2f4287f92be018",
        "createdAt": "2021-05-10T09:41:39.683Z",
        "text": "G",
        "user": Object {
          "_id": "60716a38136f970ba4a0526e",
        },
      },
      Object {
        "_id": "6097b6e69f98cbf5ba6deaf8",
        "createdAt": "2021-05-09T10:18:36.972Z",
        "text": "ত",
        "user": Object {
          "_id": "60716f7cf3a75846ee1f5d38",
        },
      },
      Object {
        "_id": "6097b6aacd62683ba317965d",
        "createdAt": "2021-05-09T10:17:36.182Z",
        "text": "H",
        "user": Object {
          "_id": "60716a38136f970ba4a0526e",
        },
      }
    ],
    "pair": Array [
      Object {
        "_id": "60716a38136f970ba4a0526e",
        "firstName": "Sayan",
        "lastName": "Biswas",
      },
    ],
  },
]
It is quite hard to update it using setState hook , so I decided to use force Update to re-render the component but its not working. The way I am updating the state is given below
privateMessages.forEach((i) => {
                    if (i.pair[0]._id == data.sender) {
                        i.chat.unshift(data.chatObj)
                    }
                })
This is the forceUpdate hook I am using
function useForceUpdate() {
    const [value, setValue] = useState(0); // integer state
    return () => setValue(value => value + 1); // update the state to force render
}
The way I am calling it
const forceUpdate = useForceUpdate()
I am using the same forceUpdate() hook in the other part of my project and its working properly but I dont know why is it not working with the nested map function given below
Edit :-
Many of the answers told me not to use forceUpdate so I removed them . I tried all the solutions given in the answer but none of them is working.Getting idea from the answer of @Punisher , I made a solution myself of the state update part but the app crashes when it runs.
socket.on("recieve-private-message", (data) => {
                setPrivateMessages(prevState => {
                    const privateMessagesCopy = JSON.parse(JSON.stringify(prevState))
                    privateMessagesCopy.forEach((i) => {
                        if (i.pair[0]._id == data.sender) {
                            i.chat.unshift(data.chatObj)
                        }
                    })
                    return privateMessagesCopy
                }                    
                )
            })
The whole code :-
import React, { useState, useEffect, useContext } from 'react';
import { View, Text, TouchableOpacity, ScrollView } from 'react-native';
import AsyncStorage from "@react-native-async-storage/async-storage"
import API from '../api.js'
import { useNavigation } from '@react-navigation/native';
import { SocketObj } from "./Main"
function useForceUpdate() {
    const [value, setValue] = useState(0); // integer state
    return () => setValue(value => value + 1); // update the state to force render
}
const ChatScreen = () => {
    const navigation = useNavigation()
    let socket = useContext(SocketObj)
    let [privateMessages, setPrivateMessages] = useState([])
    let [userId, setUserId] = useState('')
    const forceUpdate = useForceUpdate()
    useEffect(
        () => {
            const fetchData = async () => {
                try {
                    const response = await API.get('get/chats', {
                        headers: {
                            'Content-Type': 'application/json',
                            "auth-token": await AsyncStorage.getItem("token")
                        }
                    })
                    setPrivateMessages(response.data.chatFriends)
                    setUserId(response.data.userId)
                } catch (err) {
                    console.log(err.response)
                }
            }
            fetchData()
            socket.on("recieve-private-message", (data) => {
                privateMessages.forEach((i) => {
                    if (i.pair[0]._id == data.sender) {
                        i.chat.unshift(data.chatObj)
                    }
                })
                forceUpdate()
            })
        }, []
    )
    useEffect(
        () => {
            console.log("changed")
        },[privateMessages]
    )
    return (<View>
        <ScrollView >
            {
                privateMessages.map(
                    (i) => i.pair.map(
                        (j) => {
                            return (
                                <>
                                    <TouchableOpacity
                                        key={j._id}
                                        onPress={() => {
                                            navigation.navigate("PrivateConversation", {
                                                chats: i.chat,
                                                userId: userId,
                                                socket: socket,
                                                name: j.firstName,
                                                recieverId: j._id
                                            })
                                        }
                                        } >
                                        <Text key={j._id} >{j.firstName + ' ' + j.lastName}</Text>
                                    </TouchableOpacity>
                                </>
                            )
                        }
                    )
                )
            }
        </ScrollView>
    </View>)
}
export default ChatScreen
 
     
     
    