I have found similar question in some regard , I guarantee this ain't a duplicate.
Background:
The component I'm using is the all popular react day picker. Since, I found it's <DayPickerInput/> so hard to customize, I ended up customizing the <DayPicker/> instead. I'm also using a react <Select> element for a dropdown, the default <select> (note the case) doesn't even work. To use this we had to pass some component to their captionElement prop, so the overall code till now looks like this:
//required variables defined
const [display, setDisplay] = useState(false);
<input onFocus={()=>setDisplay(true)/>
const MyCustomComponent = (props)=>{
 <Select name="monthDropdown" options={...options}/>
 <Select name="yearDropdown" options={...options}/>
}
...
display && <DayPicker
          {...props}
          captionElement={({ date, localeUtils }) => (
            <MyCustomComponent date={date} localeUtils={localeUtils} onChange={handleChange} />
          )}
The Question:
The problem is, when I click the ` component, it seems to get re-rendered, and there's a flicker on the first click(only the first click):

It appears it doesn't flicker once it gets the focus. The only "hackaround" I can think of is by programmatically clicking the datepicker as it appears, so that when the user clicks with a mouse there is no flicker. But, how do I do that with a library component, the ref property is not exposed, and I don't know any other way.
What can be a solution to this problem?
EDIT: The layout code is as so:
import 'Select' from 'react-select';
import 'DayPicker' from 'react-day-picker';
//main function:
const [popup, setPopup] = useState(false);
const [customDate, setCustomDate] = useState();
const [selectedMonth, setMySelectionOfMonth] = useState();
const [selectedDay, setMySelectionOfDay] = useState();
const [focusState, setFocusState] = useState();
const [focusDatePicker , setMyDatePickerFocus] = useState();
const handleInputFocusHere = ()=>{
    setPopup(true);
}
<input type="date" value={customDate||''} onFocus={handleInputFocusHere}/>
    popup && <MyCustomDatePicker
    //pass all the above context variables here/>
//more code 
//end
const MyCustomDatePicker (props) => {
    const {customDate, setCustomDate} = props;
    const {selectedMonth, setMySelectionOfMonth} = useState();
    const {selectedDay, setMySelectionOfDay} = useState();
    const {focusState, setFocusState} = useState();
    const {focusDatePicker , setMyDatePickerFocus} = useState();
  function MyCustomCalendar(props) {
    const { onChange } = props;
    function changeMyMonth(selectedOption) {
     //some code
    }
    function changeMyYear(selectedOption) {
        //some code
    }
    return (
      <div className="DayPicker" style={{ border: '0' }}>
        <div style={{ display: 'flex', flexDirection: 'row' }}>
          <div className="mr-4x" style={{ minWidth: '100px' }}>
            <Select
              options={monthData}
              styles={customStyles}
              value={monthValue}
              onChange={changeMyMonth}
            />
          </div>
          <div style={{ minWidth: '70px' }}>
            <Select
              options={yearData}
              styles={customStyles}
              value={yearValue}
              onChange={changeMyYear}
            />
          </div>
        </div>
      </div>
    );
  }
  
  function changeMyYearMonth(month: Date) {
    setMySelectionOfMonth(month);
  }
  const handleMyCustomDayClick = (day: Date) => {
    setMySelectionOfDay(day);
    setCustomDate(day);
  };
  const onCalendarFocusChange = (focusedInput: FocusedInputShape | null) => {
    setFocusState(focusedInput);
    setMyDatePickerFocus(true);
  };
  const handleDefocus = () => {
    setFocusState(null);
    setMyDatePickerFocus(false);
  };
  const handleCalendarFocus = () => {
    setMyDatePickerFocus(true);
  };
  return (
    <div>
      
      {(focusState || focusDatePicker) && (
        <div>
          <DayPicker
            onDayClick={handleMyCustomDayClick}
            month={selectedMonth}
            className={dateFocusClass}
            fromMonth={fromMonth}
            toMonth={toMonth}
            selectedDays={selectedDay}
            canChangeMonth={false}
            onFocus={handleCalendarFocus}
            captionElement={({ date, localeUtils }) => (
              <MyCustomCalendar date={date} localeUtils={localeUtils} onChange={changeMyYearMonth} />
            )}
          />
        </div>
      )}
    </div>
  );
};
export default MyCustomDatePicker;
 
    