After much research, I was able to connect my netbeans to my microsoft server.
If you registered your server as window authentication, you have to create another login which should be SQL Server Authentication, this will prompt you to input your username and password, create new, if you don't have any already existing login.
Map your new login to any database, preferably Master or Adventure...
Go to server manager configuration tool in your MSSQL folder in the start up menu,
Manager configuration tools ---> SQL Server services -----> select your server instance from the right pane, select MSSQLSERVER or MSSQLEXPRESS
whichever you know is your instance, preferably, work on the two of them, one after the other.
MSSQLSERVER express ---->under security----> Startup Parameters----> specify a parameter ---> type -m in the box ----> click on ADD.
CLick APPLY, then OK.
Do same to the MSSQLEXPRESS.
Restart the two of them
Go back to your SQL management studio,
Connect to server, select SQL SERVER AUTHENTICATION
Input your username and password, then ok.
Open your netbeans, right click your database, do your new connection stuff with the JDBC driver, input your login details of the SQL server...... connect.
It works perfectly well.
Remember to enable your TCP/IP
Port remains 1433