The common knowledge seems to be that the lower metric value determines the precedence of one route over the other. While it does seem to make the system eventually pick the right route (metric 2), there is still noticeable lag that goes completely away after manual deletion of the offending route (metric 1000). For the record, the metric 1000 device is an Ethernet adapter, while the other is an NDIS sharing device (an android phone with usb tethering).
Edit: both routes are dest 0.0.0.0 mask 0.0.0.0
Edit2: "interface metric" as per this also seems to be lower for my preferred route that isn't working properly
Edit3: pasting in my routing table for reference
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Interface List
3...02 50 01 0a 36 63 ......Remote NDIS based Internet Sharing Device
18...f0 79 59 68 07 d9 ......Intel(R) Ethernet Connection (2) I218-V
23...0a 00 27 00 00 17 ......VirtualBox NDIS 6.0 Miniport Driver
17...0a 00 27 00 00 11 ......VirtualBox Host-Only Ethernet Adapter
1...........................Software Loopback Interface 1
13...00 00 00 00 00 00 00 e0 Microsoft ISATAP Adapter
8...00 00 00 00 00 00 00 e0 Microsoft ISATAP Adapter #2
21...00 00 00 00 00 00 00 e0 Microsoft ISATAP Adapter #3
5...00 00 00 00 00 00 00 e0 Teredo Tunneling Pseudo-Interface
9...00 00 00 00 00 00 00 e0 Microsoft ISATAP Adapter #4
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IPv4 Route Table
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Active Routes:
Network Destination Netmask Gateway Interface Metric
0.0.0.0 0.0.0.0 192.168.1.254 192.168.1.105 1000
0.0.0.0 0.0.0.0 192.168.42.129 192.168.42.140 2
127.0.0.0 255.0.0.0 On-link 127.0.0.1 331
127.0.0.1 255.255.255.255 On-link 127.0.0.1 331
127.255.255.255 255.255.255.255 On-link 127.0.0.1 331
192.168.1.0 255.255.255.0 On-link 192.168.1.105 756
192.168.1.105 255.255.255.255 On-link 192.168.1.105 756
192.168.1.255 255.255.255.255 On-link 192.168.1.105 756
192.168.42.0 255.255.255.0 On-link 192.168.42.140 257
192.168.42.140 255.255.255.255 On-link 192.168.42.140 257
192.168.42.255 255.255.255.255 On-link 192.168.42.140 257
192.168.56.0 255.255.255.0 On-link 192.168.56.1 281
192.168.56.1 255.255.255.255 On-link 192.168.56.1 281
192.168.56.255 255.255.255.255 On-link 192.168.56.1 281
192.168.128.0 255.255.255.0 On-link 192.168.128.2 281
192.168.128.2 255.255.255.255 On-link 192.168.128.2 281
192.168.128.255 255.255.255.255 On-link 192.168.128.2 281
224.0.0.0 240.0.0.0 On-link 127.0.0.1 331
224.0.0.0 240.0.0.0 On-link 192.168.56.1 281
224.0.0.0 240.0.0.0 On-link 192.168.128.2 281
224.0.0.0 240.0.0.0 On-link 192.168.1.105 756
224.0.0.0 240.0.0.0 On-link 192.168.42.140 257
255.255.255.255 255.255.255.255 On-link 127.0.0.1 331
255.255.255.255 255.255.255.255 On-link 192.168.56.1 281
255.255.255.255 255.255.255.255 On-link 192.168.128.2 281
255.255.255.255 255.255.255.255 On-link 192.168.1.105 756
255.255.255.255 255.255.255.255 On-link 192.168.42.140 257
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